When Kids ask those awkward questions

We often get those awkward questions from our kids. Like, where do babies come from, or why is so and so this or that way? It is important to have honest discussions with our kids in regards to these questions. We want to build a healthy trustworthy relationship with them.

We as adults feel uncomfortable and even taken aback when they ask these questions. The problem is, we were likely not raised to discuss these things openly and now they expect us to answer it. Or, we may feel they are too young to know the truth.

Know this, when a child is ready for the answer, they will ask the question. However, always make sure it is age appropriate and always ascertain why they are asking, and what they already know. That way, you can sidestep any miscommunication and also correct misinformation.

Our kids have asked us many an awkward question, and there were times where we were unsure how to answer. Asking for time to think or even gather information, respects them as well as the importance of their question. Always get back to them with an answer. It matters that you get back to them. Just because they did not raise the topic again, does not mean they are not waiting on you for an answer. I assure you they have not forgotten that they have asked you. By getting back to them, you are confirming that you are reliable and trustworthy. As they get older, those are the aspects of your relationship they will rely on, especially come the teenage years. Make sure the foundation is laid properly now.

They are not asking questions to try and catch you out or test you, however, if you fail to answer them honestly, you will be failing a subconscious test in their minds. They want to know if you are worthy of their continued trust, especially with the awkward and important life questions.

Not answering them or lying to them, creates a vacuum that will be filled by peers and other influencers. You have no control over what they are taught by others, so create a space where they know that they will get the truth from you and can compare what they learn elsewhere against that. This enables them to measure the information they receive from others against the source they already know they can trust and rely on – you.

We as adults feel uncomfortable and even taken aback when they ask these questions. The problem is, we were probably not raised to discuss these things openly and now they expect us to answer it. Or we may feel they are to young to know the truth.

Know this, when a child is ready for the answer, they will ask the question. However, always make sure it is age appropriate and always ascertain why they are asking, and what they already know. That way, you can sidestep any miscommunication and also correct misinformation.

Our kids have asked us many a awkward question, and there were times, where we were unsure as how to answer. Asking time to think or even get information, both respects them and the importance of their question. Always get back to them with an answer. It matters that you get back to them. Just because they did not raise the topic again, does not mean they are not waiting on you for an answer. I promise you they did not forget that they have asked you.

By getting back to them, you will show that you are reliable and trustworthy. As they get older, it is those aspects of your relationship they will rely on, especially come the teenage years. Make sure the foundation is laid properly.

They are not asking these questions to try and catch you out or test you, however if you fail to answer them honestly, you will be failing a subconscious test in their minds. They want to know if you are worthy of their continued trust, especially with the awkward and important life questions.

Not answering them or lying to them, honestly will create a vacuum that will be filled by peers and other influences. You have no control over what they are being taught by others, so create the space where they know that they will get the truth from you. This enables them to measure outside information to a source they already trust and rely on – you.

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